How to Live a Happy Life~

19 April 2019

Hello, everyone,

 

It’s been a while since I’ve written a blog post, and I do apologize about that. I’ve spent the past couple months getting prepared for our house and baby, as well as planning, organizing, and nesting. I have missed writing, however, very much, and even after the baby is born, I still plan to write. I’ll never give it up.

 

So with everything going on around you, living a busy life day after day, how do you still live a happy life?

 

Well, I can honestly say that I’ve never felt truly happy until I’ve heartily prayed about the things in my life that bug me, and then leave the rest to God, trusting Him to handle it in His own good time. It gives you such peace when you finally allow God to take care of even the smallest things in your life, such as what you and your spouse are going to have for supper that night. I’ve been known to pray about such things. It gives me the courage to rely on the Lord even more. In fact, you can rely upon Him with anything in your life that may bug you. Praying about it simply makes it all disappear, as well as causes you to realize that maybe the situation isn’t as bad as you may think. After all, you’re giving it to a big God who is more than capable of handling it!

 

The main reason there is a growing rate of suicides in the world today, is because people are not truly happy. They may have hobbies that they love, family members that they love, and so forth. But if you don’t a hundred percent give everything to the Lord, then how do you expect to endure true peace in your life? Even after a couple of days of neglecting to pray, I feel weak and empty inside. Many times, I’ve heard how people in the news admitting that they felt suicidal or depressed, because they felt so empty inside.  That emptiness and depression wouldn’t be there if only they had given their problems and burdens to God. Of course, it doesn’t happen overnight. There are still things that I personally struggle with and have to cry out to God about them every day, but I pray that God will help me through them and give me the wisdom and guidance to know how to encounter such trials. Maybe the trial is a person in our life who brings us down in some way, or maybe it’s an event or circumstance that you dread coming across either occasionally or regularly. Maybe it’s something in your own personality that you wish was different. Whatever the case, give it to the Lord. Even though He knows what we need and want before we ask Him, we should never be afraid to ask Him for things, because that’s what builds a lasting relationship with Him.

 

There was a time in my life when I hardly ever prayed to God unless I absolutely needed something extremely important changed or a problem fixed within my life. I realize now how wrong that was. Aside from asking for things we need and want, as well as giving all of our burdens over to Him, we need to do so with a thankful heart. A lot of times, if we get a prayer answered, we forget about how fervently we’d prayed to God about that situation that we don’t even thank Him for the answered prayer! We must stop this. After all, God gave us His Son to die on the cross to pay for all of our sins. Jesus was innocent; we are not. God gave us the blessing of our spouse; our true friends; our family; our home; our jobs; our cars; our gift of life to breathe and live each and every day. If we only pray to God whenever we need Him, we’re not giving Him enough credit and we’re definitely not being very fair to Him who has given us all things.

 

So once again, do you want to know the key to a truly happy life? God. Find God, and you find yourself and every answer to every problem in your life. Find God, and you’ll never be depressed or suicidal. Find God, and everything will work out beautifully in your life. And trust me – as soon who prayed fervently every day for years for a baby and a bigger home, and those things have happened – they WILL turn out all right. 🙂

 

Happy Easter, everyone 🙂

 

JMK~

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An Extra Piece of My Heart

1 September 2017

Hello everyone,

 

I pulled up into my parents’ countryside driveway. I parked on the grass next to my sister’s Jeep. My heart was in my throat. My stomach was weak. I gazed over, through the driver’s window, and gulped at the sight of the family dog standing by my car, panting, happily waiting for me. I smiled, and as I got out of my car, I tried to ignore the fact that Sailor was only walking on three legs. I forced the excitement into my voice as I pet him like crazy, buttering him up with sweet words of encouragement and love: “How’s my little Sailor boy? How are you doing? Are you happy to see me? Huh?” His long tail wagged, tongue lolling, chocolate brown eyes lit up with joy despite the pain he probably felt in his leg. That day would be his final day on this Earth, and he didn’t even know it…

 

Several days before, my mom had called my cell phone to give me unfortunate news. Sailor didn’t have a broken leg, but rather, he had bone cancer, and it had already spread throughout his body. There was nothing the vet could do. Two days before that, my mom had called me to tell me our family’s old Shih Tzu poodle dog, Holly, had died in her sleep. Two dogs in one week. I was crushed. Even more of a crush was wholeheartedly deciding that I was going to be there with Sailor, alongside my sister, as they put him down. It was THE hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Watching the light fade from his eyes gave me have an even more profound sense of devotion, love, and adoration to animals. The excitement and joy and love that he showed before that first shot made me feel guilty later for having to put him down. I do not regret being there, though, no matter how hard it was. He needed to see us and be comforted by our presence. He was only six years old.

 

Those deaths, ontop of other things, has made it an interesting summer. It has really made me appreciate God, though, and the time I got to share with my loved ones. Life is short, and we are never guaranteed tomorrow. Every moment is precious, and every person in your life is designed by God to be a special presence in your life. Be grateful for the small things, don’t get angry about things that won’t matter on your death bed, and always pray your very hardest. Live for God the way the Bible requires, not any way that people tell you to, and always work your hardest with those loved ones and those careers and hobbies that matter the most to you. Don’t take anything for granted, because tomorrow, it may not be there.

 

Tragedy can make the sanest person go mad, but only if we let it. If we have God on our side, draw comfort and strength from Him and never give up, only then will we succeed. Too often in this world we see suicide rates continuing to go up. Whenever I hear about that, I always think about how tragic that is, because life is precious, and nothing, no matter how bad it is, should ever lead you to that level. Those of you who are hurting today, rely on Jesus. He is the author and perfecter of our faith. He will lead you through, but only if you believe in him and trust Him. Have faith that He will pull you through and will lead you through better tomorrows. He has a unique and wonderful plan for each and every one of our lives, and if we daily read & study His Word and learn from it, we will be comforted, we will succeed in our endeavors, and we will receive God’s wisdom & guidance to do and say the right things at all times. This is my daily prayer. My dogs’ deaths will always stay with me, but I look forward to the future, of loving others, especially our cats and future dogs and cats just as much or even more so as Holly & Sailor. I still miss them terribly. But I will never forget the memories we have. Most of all, I will never forget the comfort God gave me when the going was tough, all because I relied on Him.

 

Holly & Sailor, you will always & forever hold a special place in my heart.

 

Have a great week!! 🙂

 

JMK~

Marriage is Fun – Really, It Is!

Marriage is Fun – Really, It Is!

7 July 2016

Hello, everyone!

It was the first of December, 2011. I was unemployed, searching for a job, but took a break from job searching to go to a certain special KFC at 1:00 PM. I parked my rusty old, brown Oldsmobile in a parking stall facing the street and took out my phone. My fingers were trembling with nervousness and anticipation.

“I’m here,” he texted.

“Me, too,” I replied in the text, and hit Send. I swallowed hard, and prayed, Dear Lord, if it is Your will, please let him be the One. I’m sick and tired of my heart being broken. Please, let him be the One.

It was the first real date in our four months of texting each other, and also the first real time we would meet face to face. I’d never been so nervous in my life. But the moment I stepped out of my car, he stepped out of his old maroon, Jimmy truck. His eyes met mine, and he smiled. I smiled in response, too, as if knowing right then and there that I would be smiling at him like that for the rest of my life, as if knowing already that he was the one I would marry. Somehow, as I walked toward him, I knew, somewhere deep inside me, that this was the one, that God had already answered my prayer before I’d even asked it. Little did I know then that a year and a half later, I’d be engaged to this man – that years afterward, I’d be typing this blog post to you right now, fully intending to tell you all about the wonderful and amazing journey that lies ahead in marriage.

Every couple’s love story is  beautiful. But ours is my favorite. I love that saying. It is so true, and I always think that, too, every time I look into my husband’s eyes and remember that cold wintry day in the KFC parking lot. So much has changed since then – but I have to wonder if every married couple who sees the above saying really thinks this for the rest of their married life. Do they expect the marriage to be short? or do they hope their spouse will change so they can live a happy life? Sadly, too many marriages crash mainly because of unhappiness and non-understandable differences. Sadly, too many people walk away from that person they’d once been so completely in love with, usually not due to infidelity, but due to too much anger in not being able to change the spouse because of this and that. Maybe he always forgets to put the cap back on the toothpaste when he’s done using it. Maybe she never flosses her teeth and therefore that grosses him out. Maybe she thinks he never helps with the kids / pets as much as he should. Maybe he’s the only one going to church while she stays home and sleeps in. The list goes on.

I firmly believe that lots of people these days are afraid of getting married, because they think marriage is a ball-and-chain business. Guys don’t want to be faced with a “nagging wife” the rest of their lives, of dealing with her little fits of tears and rage about the littlest things. Girls don’t want to be faced with a prison sentence, seeing one man for the rest of their lives, and living with the fear of never being able to change his disgusting habits.

Hold on.

People don’t understand that marriage is NOT a ball-and-chain business. A wife shouldn’t be nagging at her husband anyway, just like the husband should not be treated as a prison sentence with disgusting habits. Granted, nobody is perfect. So why do couples assume their significant other is perfect when they marry? And why do people so often think, “Oh, when we get married, I’ll just change him / her. I’ll make it happen somehow.” God made marriage beautifully – where we as couples work as a team together. We love each other more than the day before. We look past each other’s imperfections and see the beauty that’s inside. Yes, maybe he doesn’t put the cap on the toothpaste every night, but overall, he’s still a great husband, right? Yes, maybe she snores every night and sometimes whines, but overall, doesn’t she make you the happiest woman in the world? You see, marriage isn’t by dealing with each other’s imperfections constantly – it’s learning to see one imperfect person perfectly. Each and every day, too!

Let me give you an example. My husband and I work as a team. He is the breadwinner and family head of the household, but we talk about everything. We never keep secrets from each other, and we never purposely try to hurt each other. We’re not perfect, but we see past each other’s imperfections to the beauty that’s truly inside. If we have an issue, we try to talk through it in a calm manner where we are listening to each other thoroughly. We have a strong marriage based on trust, love, faithfulness, and where we’re each other’s best friend. In marriage, it is a constant adventure, but only if you play the game right. But first, above all else, lean on God and ask Him to help you through the times when you need strength in your marriage, and be kindly honest with each other all the way through. Not every situation will go well, but not every situation will go bad, either. If you work through your issues instead of bottling it up inside and nagging / yelling, though, and remember the marriage that God so beautifully designed, and also if you let go of the small things that do not matter and open up to the beauty that’s inside your spouse, every situation will be successful no matter what.

Do your homework first, though – choose a spouse that will make a good mate, where there aren’t any red flags anywhere. Then, open your arms wide to the pure and true beauty that’s inside marriage. You want the kind of marriage where you can happily grow old with and laugh with, not somebody you’re not looking forward to coming home to. How did your grandparents and great-parents make it through their long-lasting marriages? Through trust, faith, love, true friendship, patience, and kindness. Marriage is a lifetime commitment longing to be discovered by all, and it only gets better year by year! But only if you let it – if you both work hard, enjoy, and love your spouse despite the imperfections of his or her self. That’s the kind of person that God sees – and that’s the kind of person that YOU should see!

Don’t forget to look for Jenna’s new book, “The Magic Suitcase: Martha” in online stores through Amazon and Smashwords! Buy it today and then buy it again when it arrives in paperback – which is coming soon!  Focus your reading energy on a book that will remind you about the wonderful blessings of life, and the surprises that come upon life’s way!

Have a good week, everyone 🙂

JMK~

How to Make a Difference

Hello everyone,

How do you make a difference in someone’s life? What is one way you help others?

In light of my exciting announcement that is coming soon, I’d like to use this moment to show you what I mean in my website sub title “writing to change lives.” Personally, I’m addicted to donating plasma once or twice a week to save lives. If you’re able, do it! You’ll feel happy you did.

But the writing business is a whole new game. So in my novels and poetry, I write to change lives by influencing readers through hard earned life lessons. It may be simple to a struggle. It all depends on the person really. But by incorporating life lessons in my work instead of just a beautiful story, I help others to see wonderful things about life and living for God that may have never come across their minds.

Do something nice for someone today, either indirectly or directly. Be selfless. Instead of focusing on yourself, do that about others instead. Change lives for the better by your own passions and actions in your own lives. 🙂 Live a beautiful, happy life by doing so. 🙂

All for now,

JMK 🙂