When in Doubt, Do What Grandma Says~

30 October 2018


Hello everyone,


Hope everyone has had a good October and fall so far. Halloween is tomorrow, and I’m dressing up as Mario. What are you dressing up as?


This October has been a terrible one for me, mainly because my 92-year old grandmother, Agnes, passed away on Oct. 15th. I cannot even begin to explain to you the depth of how hard the past couple weeks has been. They’ve passed by in a blur, but it’s been a blur of numbness and shock. I keep having to poke myself that this wonderful, spirited woman who had lived next door to my parents out in the country all my life is now gone. There are no words to fully examine to you how much I miss her, or how much I crave her presence.


Almost every weekend when I was growing up, I went over to her house and hung out with her. I baked with her, prayed with her, and learned from her. As I grew older, I didn’t notice that she growing older, too, but in a completely different way, even though she was still her loving, spirited self. She had the same laugh, the same directness to handling disobedience as well as not being afraid to tell you exactly how she felt about something. But that was okay, because she was her own person. She loved the Lord, she loved her family, and loved reading, puzzles and, in the earlier years, enjoyed sewing as well. I fondly think that I’ve received my enjoyment of writing from her. She had a single typewriter she used for typing out all of her letters, recipes, and notes. She enjoyed reading and had done so for many years, up until within the past few years where she couldn’t see well enough to do so. When I was either 13 or 14, she started ordering Love Inspired/Harlequin books (which amounted to about 4 books a month) and gradually, when she was done reading them, she put them in a special cupboard in her desk for me to take and read for myself next time I visited her. Every time I visited, she always had a personal story to share that was similar to one of the books I picked up, or a story that reminded her of one of the books’ plots. And I’d sit and listen to her calmly and patiently talk, while she thought of every aspect of the story just to make sure she got every part right.


I went to high school and college, graduated, and lived on my own for a couple years before I married my husband. Along that time, I worked, enjoyed being a newlywed, and forgot about how my grandmother had gotten even older. She started using a cane. Then, gradually, a walker. Then, before I knew it, myself and most of the other grandchildren sat in her nursing home room surrounding her where she lay, unconscious and on oxygen. As I sat there, occasionally visiting with my sisters and cousins, I gazed around the room at the pictures that had defined her life. Her wedding picture sat nearby, and within that photo sat a much younger woman who had a full life of possibilities stretched ahead of her. It made me realize then, as I sat there, about how fast life really does happen. Once you reached 30, the age I’m at, you only have 10 years until you reach 40. Then, before long, your kids make your years whiz by up through age 60. For example, I can’t believe my parents are in their early 60s now. It seems just yesterday they were in their 40s, raising little ol’ me and my younger sisters.


If you think about it, it’s really not fair. Relatively, on average, God only gives us 70-100 years to live on this earth. We’re babies, then we’re children, and then we graduate from high school. Then, we graduate from college. Then, we get married and have kids. (Not necessarily in that order.) We raise kids, watch them graduate and get married and have their own kids, and before we know it, we’re sitting in a nursing home wondering where life had gone. Every day, especially lately, it feels like life just goes faster and faster. When I was growing up, particularly in elementary and high school, the days crawled. Maybe it was because I hated school and didn’t enjoy my classes, nor have very many friends. Or maybe it was because I didn’t think of how slow or fast life was going. But while I was growing up, my grandma was growing older. Whenever I wrote to her, she wrote back sometimes complaining that I don’t visit as often as I should. At the time, I just shook my head and chuckled, mentally reminding myself to visit her next time I visited my parents. But now, looking back, I feel ashamed of myself and not visiting her as often as I probably should have. However, within the past few years, I began visiting her more and more, and that makes me really thankful now that I did do that. We didn’t even have to talk about much. She had the volume on loud because she couldn’t hear the greatest, and we’d just sit there in her living room watching old game shows together. Neither of us really ever had anything new to share. But the time was made to simply just be with each other and cherish the time together. After an hour or so, I remember that every time I admitted I had to go, she had this big disappointed look on her face. But I also knew she understood. She’d been young once, too.


I’m saying all these things not to make you depressed or feel sorry for me and our family’s loss. Rather, I want you all to really take a good look at your own life. What kind of legacy are you going to leave behind for your children and grandchildren? The kind of life you’re living now, they’re going to be envious of one day – especially your grandchildren. If you’re away from home a lot, visit your folks and grandparents as often as you possibly can! Trust me, if you don’t grab hold of that time and cherish it, you WILL regret it one day. I regret not spending more time with my grandma. I should’ve made it more of a point to spend more time with her, even though I spent as much time as I could with her. One day, you’re going to be sitting in a nursing home wondering where life had gone and why it had gone by so fast. Don’t just bypass this blog post without thinking about it very much – REALLY think about it, like I have. Enjoy your life, and cherish it. Grab hold of it as hard as you can, and spend as much time with your family as you can. For if you don’t, you’ll regret it, and that’s a horrible feeling to have.


On the day that my grandma was driven to the nursing home, she left her home for the last time. She looked back at the home in which she’d lived for many years. So many memories had been there. Raising kids, grandkids, and having grandkids visit in your house. Walking across the land and breathing in that fresh country air. Thinking about the length of time and the depth of the memories ~ if you think about it, it really gets you. Life is built with memories, but most especially, with God as your Head.


Cling tight to those memories, but most especially to those family members you love so much. Keep God as the head of your life always. Plant a legacy the future children and grandchildren will one day be extremely proud of. Then, quietly leave it behind, trusting in the Lord to handle the rest in this wild adventure we call life. The continuous circle of life will go on until Judgment Day. But you – yes, you – only have 1 life to live. 1 life. How are you going to live it? Making choices you may one day regret? Or living in a way that is not only pleasing to God, but in a way where your future grandchildren will one day wish they’d lived it with you?


I will forever love and miss my grandmother. She was one of the more important persons in my life. But as I continue on in this adventurous and busy life, I will honor her memory by carrying on her legacy ~ a legacy she would’ve been proud of ~ all the while planting my own.




The Blessing of True Love in Writing

Hello everyone,

I know I’m a bit late 🙂 but this should be a good Valentine’s Day post.

I have a wonderful true love who gave me flowers and a sweet necklace 🙂 Our cats destroyed the flowers, but I kept the necklace. I also got some gifts from my parents and inlaws.

Valentine’s Day is always fun. My husband proposed on that day two years ago. Each of us celebrates in our own way. Us, we had a nice dinner at home, had cake, watched Titanic, and drank some sparkling pomegranate juice.

I’m not sure if you’ve noticed, haha, but I am a true romantic at heart. After suspense novels, I enjoy the heartwarming stories of romance and a man and a woman getting together. It’s rather exciting to see that treasure found by someone special. Your heart knows that he is the one, and et cetera.

But all gooey and golden things aside, true love doesn’t need to be just by your spouse. Maybe you have a special friend or two or several or a whole room-size of friends who are is your true love, someone who understands you just the way you want to be understood. If you are like me, your first and foremost true love is God. Or maybe its your kids, your pets, or the stranger that you help serve food to in charity houses and homeless shelters.

A true love can be anything you love and desire above anything else. I’ve seen all kinds of it, in music, and even in my own writing. I write true love stories for a living. That is my freelance writer life. I enjoy finding creative ways for a couple to get together, and I also enjoy reading about them. Why, you ask? Well, simply because I truly believe, in my heart of hearts, that each and every unique person of the world truly deserves someone or something (as in, their passions, talents, etc.) to hold onto to be their forever purpose. My forever purpose is serving the Lord and serving my husband, and then, of course, being a freelance writer and well-known author someday. Will you help me make it possible? Those are my true loves. 🙂

What’s your true love? What did you do this Valentine’s Day?

One of the most influential people I’ve known in my life is my grandmother. Her name was Rita. I bring her up because three years ago this month, she passed away from this world. I remember her laughing a lot and as much as possible. Her second bout of breast cancer robbed her life from ours, but her memory continues to live on in my family. I could write story after story about her, her sweet and kind nature, teaching my sisters and I how to cook and bake, influencing me to take up knitting, and encouraging me in my life. She always had something to say, something to ask. Looking back, I wish that we had talked longer and played piano duets more. She’d born and raised seven children, been a farmer’s wife, and taught learning school and piano lessons for years. She was one of my inspirations. She always urged us to smile more, that we should turn our frowns upside down and live happily, that God gave us a wonderful reason for living. She lived life straight to the fullest. She made her life unforgettable.

I don’t know about you, but I want to live past age 100 if God wills. I want to show people that my long life isn’t simply in tribute of God and how healthy I work and live, but living happily. Recently I’ve chosen to let go of the negative and focus on the positive for good this time. I pray that my hard work with this will be a success.

I hope this blog post finds you all in good spirits this week 🙂